Talking to Someone with Suicidal Ideations

Introduction

Engaging in a conversation with someone who is experiencing suicidal ideations can be one of the most challenging yet essential actions you can take. Such discussions require sensitivity, empathy, and preparedness. This blog offers key points to consider when preparing for this difficult conversation, as well as resources for further support.

Preparing for the Conversation

1. Educate Yourself

• Understanding Suicidal Ideation: Familiarize yourself with the signs, symptoms, and common myths surrounding suicidal thoughts. It’s important to recognize that suicidal ideation can stem from various underlying issues, including mental health disorders, trauma, or situational stressors.

2. Choose the Right Setting

• Private and Comfortable Space: Ensure the conversation takes place in a safe, private environment where the person feels comfortable expressing themselves without fear of being judged or overheard.

3. Approach with Empathy

• Listen Actively: Encourage open dialogue by showing genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings. Avoid interrupting and allow them to express themselves fully.
• Validate Feelings: Acknowledge their feelings without judgment. Statements like “That sounds really painful” can help to convey understanding.

4. Be Direct, Yet Gentle

• Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage them to talk about their feelings. For example, “Can you tell me more about what you’ve been feeling lately?”
• Do Not Avoid the Subject: It’s crucial to ask directly about suicidal thoughts. You might say, “I’m really concerned about you. Have you been feeling like hurting yourself or thinking about ending your life?”

5. Avoid Clichés and Quick Fixes

• Limit Problem-Solving Solutions: Instead of jumping to solutions, focus on listening and understanding their feelings. Phrases like “Just think positively” can be dismissive.

What to Do During the Conversation

1. Stay Calm and Supportive

• Your demeanour can significantly influence the conversation. Remain calm and non-threatening to help the person feel safe.

2. Encourage Professional Help

• If they are open to it, gently encourage them to seek professional help. Offer to help them find resources or accompany them if they feel anxious about reaching out.

3. Assess Immediate Risk

• If the individual is in immediate danger, do not leave them alone. Call emergency services or take them to a safe location.

4. Follow Up

• Continue to check in on them after the initial conversation. Regular support can make a significant difference.

Resources for Support

National Hotlines

• Samaritans: Call 116 123 (UK) – available 24/7 for anyone in distress.
• Papyrus: https://www.papyrus-uk.org/papyrus-HOPELINE247/
• Call Hopeline 247 0800 068 4141(UK)

Online Resources

• Mind: org.uk - Mental health support and services.
• NHS Mental Health Support: uk - Information on mental health issues and crisis services.

Local Support

• East Hampshire Counselling: For local, professional support, you can reach out to Zeenat at zeenat@easthampshirecounselling.co.uk.

Conclusion

Having a conversation with someone who may be experiencing suicidal ideations is an act of compassion. Your willingness to engage thoughtfully and empathetically can play a crucial role in their journey toward healing. Remember, you’re not alone in this; seek further support for yourself and the individual you are helping.

Note: If you or someone you know is in crisis or experiencing suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a professional or a helpline immediately.